By Teachers, For Teachers
Kindness isn't a natural instinct. In the continuum of nature vs. nurture, it's well on the side of nurture. Kids aren't born knowing the part community and friendship play in their lives. They learn this from family, friends, schoolmates, and life in general. That means, among the topics that must be covered in school, kindness may be among the most important teaching strategies we use.
Kindness is exactly what it sounds like -- being friendly, generous, and considerate to others whether or not you think they deserve it. It's not a payoff to someone who treated you well; it's an attitude that seeps into every action in a person's life.
It's interesting that some variation of "Kindness" is included in most non-academic measures of what students should learn in school, including Habits of Mind, a Growth Mindset, and Mindfulness (click links for further discussion).
Kids learn by example. It’s unfortunate to note that some don't see kindness in their homes. What they experience instead, they may think is the norm until you -- their trusted teacher -- shows them otherwise. This isn't as easy as it sounds. You must always have your antenna up, noticing when you need to intervene to tweak actions. This could be gossip, mean words, (cyber)bullying, or even speech that is accepted by most. Your job isn't to stop whatever is going on but, redirect and explain so students learn why what they're doing isn't kind.
Why teach this in school, you ask? The quick answer is that students spend half their waking hours in or around school. It has a huge impact on how they view their world and their lives. But it's more than that. Establishing a kind school culture resonates in all parts of a child's life: "Positive school climate has been empirically linked to a number of favorable outcomes, notably, the promotion of feelings of safety; establishing and maintaining healthy relationships, reductions in misbehavior, increases in students’ academic, emotional, and behavioral success at school; teaching that is engaging and promotes learning, and improvements in the overall quality of schools." (Measuring Kindness in School, John Tyler Binfet, 2015).
In short, if students see kindness modeled in school, they are more likely to duplicate that in their own lives and activities.
There are surprisingly a lot of them. Four I've talked about in the past are:
All of these teach students to recognize kindness, participate in it, and encourage it in others. These websites (and others) help to create habits that stay with students well beyond the schoolhouse walls.
Building personal empathy requires creating a culture of kindness in your classroom, your school, and within each student. The following acts of kindness can be completed anywhere, anytime, with a small or large commitment, and no financial investment. World Kindness Day is coming up on November 13, 2018. Make that the day all students push to complete at least three of these activities and share their success with classmates.
There are a lot of service projects that focus on helping others. Often this includes donations of foodstuff or money, collections of clothing and holiday gifts, or creating posters that educate on the importance of treating the world well. The next level of service learning is a full-blown, time-intensive service project that requires an ongoing commitment from students (not parents) with a payoff that is tremendous. Spending time with those who benefit from kindness is probably the biggest lesson students can learn as they grow up.
One of my favorite easy-to-do and non-threatening ones is for students to teach others what they have learned. That can be sports, tutoring, or in this case, how to use technology. I write about setting up a service learning program where students teach elders at a senior center how to do the common tech tasks everyone else takes for granted (digital photos, email, and online chatting to name a few). Everywhere this has been tried, it's been a staggering success. No surprise, students learn their subject better when they teach it and the elders learn skills that can be used in every aspect of their lives.
These acts of kindness can be curated in the school newsletter, applauded at a school assembly, and/or discussed in the classroom. You might require a certain number be completed each year, each grading period, or not keep track of them. Do whatever works for your group. The only "Must" is that kindness happens in the bright light of day, under a spotlight, where others see it.
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Jacqui Murray has been teaching K-18 technology for 30 years. She is the editor/author of over 100 ed-tech resources, including a K-8 technology curriculum, K-8 keyboard curriculum, K-8 Digital Citizenship curriculum. She is an adjunct professor in ed-tech, Master Teacher, webmaster for four blogs, an Amazon Vine Voice reviewer, CAEP reviewer, CSTA presentation reviewer, freelance journalist on ed-tech topics, contributor to NEA Today and TeachHUB, and author of the tech thrillers, To Hunt a Sub and Twenty-four Days. You can find her resources at Structured Learning.